Wednesday, 27 April 2016

The "Whys" of life - Be the fragrance... Love will follow!

Life isn’t this way, gives you what you are not interested in and keeps those things beyond reach which your heart dearly desires.

 


The greatest gift a parent can give a child, is the ability to become independently happy.

And the greatest gift a child can give a parent is exercising that ability.

Life is meant to be lived on one's on terms and I believe that I want to live my life on my own terms. But it is easier said than done. It takes a great deal of courage and indifference for doing so. The life that has been created with things that have been thrust in your hand is, after all, your own life. You are responsible for it. Responsibility is what has been ingrained in our morals and heads since our childhood. Thus, it seems a great deal to give up responsibility, it is even heavier a burden than just following you heart and taking a step in the direction of your choice.

Why does it have to be so difficult to choose what you want and why is it easy to live your own life the way society instructs (read= wants) you to live? Why is it easier to sacrifice all you want than to choose what you dearly desire? Why is the question so difficult even to answer?

You have been given a family, some morals (according to the society you are born and brought up in), some relations (because you were born there), some culture (because you happen to live in that cultural society) and you are thus expected (rather forced) to live with those set of rules that have been laid down.

Why does life have to be all about sacrifices, adjustments, respecting others choices rather than respecting our self? Why does one have to be so careful about what OTHERS will think, rather than looking into what “I think”.

This is not an outburst, but all these “WHYS” have been a part of my thought process for a long, long time. Let me guess, since I started working? Or since I started going to college? Or since I started growing up? Every time, every single time, there is someone who whispers slowly into your head “What will others think?”

It is no outside person who says that it is just the person who has been designed and moulded by the society living in which we are living. What makes it difficult for us to choose what we love, to live the life of our dreams? Why is choosing freedom so complicated?

Well, I am no expert, these are questions that I raise. But as I write this blog, Peter Sharp, founder, The Liberators international comes to my mind. In his dance for freedom video, he says “FREEDOM IS A STATE OF MIND”. I love this thought, and I am to incorporate that in my life and just keep my state of mind in the thoughts of freedom, I guess half my stress will be blow away.

I have also read that it is “ALL IN THE MIND” what all is in the mind? Freedom and bondage, love and hatred, courage and fear, joy and sorrow, everything are in the mind. All these questions that I have raised definitely have answers, but all those answers too are in the mind.

I’d rather say, MY answers are in MY mind, YOUR answers are in YOUR mind. Just as each individual is different, so are each one's answers. I have decided to look to and listen to what my mind has to show and tell me. I have decided to understand and answer my calling. I have decided to post this blog and share it with everyone who has these questions or feels has answers to these questions.

It is still a huge rather a tremendous step that I would need to take to answer my calling, but yes, as my mind says I have to follow and answer my calling I will be doing so now. There is no right time to answer, it is just done as it comes, and go with the flow. This is my answer, I will love the people I love, I will do what I like to do, I will allow what people around me want to do for themselves.

Life is a very personal thing and living it according to your choice too is a personal choice. We are all here to learn, to meet, to understand, to bond, and after the learning is done to move on to the next plane. The next life, or an afterlife, as called by some, moving on is the nature of life, there is no time space limitation, there is no age – race bondage, the universe is infinite, so are the possibilities!

Go out, choose to listen to your mind and move – move on and on and on till you reach a stage where you aim to be, where your learning will be complete, where you will be ready to move on further.
 
We are not trees to be in one place for ages and ages, till you perish for the worse. We are the pollen grains from that beautiful flower that flows around, to wherever it wishes to reach and pollinate. To bear the seed, grow other trees and promote the growth of many more flowers and generate many more pollen grains and cover the entire universe and spread the fragrance that is not bound by any wall or any rules.


Fragrance and love are the two things that can never be kept hidden, be the fragrance, not the tree! Live life spreading joy, love and fragrance... Love will follow!